“I’m organizing XYZ, will you come?” – “No, I won’t.”
I was recently invited to join a ‘cool’ activity on a Sunday. Sunday is family time, so I would only step away for very special occasions.
My natural inclination was to answer “Unfortunately, I can’t.”, or “Sorry, that doesn’t fit.” With this answer I would create myself as a victim. I would be too afraid to stand up for my wants, and invent an excuse of external circumstances that prevent me from attending. Gladly, I noticed this script.
In the pursuit of more integrity in my life, and not making myself a victim, I forced myself to answer simply, and truthfully: “No, I won’t.”
The answer didn’t come super easy but felt powerful. In a small situation I had created myself as the full owner of my life and my decisions.
Language is powerful. Speaking “I must”, “I cannot” and “I have to” is not just a social slip of the tongue. It’s an energetic expression of powerlessness. It creates me as powerless.
That’s the path I want to stay on and master, and help my clients master: being a powerful owner and creator in their own lives.
So here is my invitation: Where do you shy away from truthfully expressing your wants and creating yourself as a victim? And how can you clean that up?
Have a great weekend!
Johannes
